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When the walls close in, both physically and mentally, it is easy to feel like the person you once was has been lost. For many, incarceration becomes not only a punishment but a pause. A disconnection from one’s true self. But you are not gone. You are not broken. You are still in there, waiting to be rediscovered.
As a psychologist who works with many people released from prison, I really value both the process of looking inward and focusing on helping others find their truth. I have sat with many people who feel like they have lost their identity after prison. Some feel crushed by guilt. Others feel numb, hardened, or simply invisible. And some feel they should give in to the opinion of others. But what I have seen repeatedly is that the human spirit is much stronger than it appears. And even behind bars, healing is possible, growth is possible, and transformation is possible.
Who were you before the noise, the chaos, the choices that led you here? Deep down, beneath survival mode and defence mechanisms, there is a core self, a part of you that existed before life got complicated. Maybe you remember being kind, curious, protective, or creative. Maybe you were someone who felt deeply but did not always know how to express it. That version of you may feel distant now, but it is not gone.
One of the most powerful acts of reclaiming yourself is giving yourself permission to remember who you were, and who you wanted to be. Even if the person you were made mistakes, there were also strengths, values, and dreams in you. Those things do not die because of time, trauma, or prison. They just get buried and can be uncovered again.
Ironically, prison may be a place where you can be left alone with your thoughts with minimal distraction. Take time to reflect, not just on your past, but on your potential. Ask yourself:
You do not need to solve everything at once, just start small. Journaling, meditation, or quiet walks can help you reconnect to your inner voice. That’s the one that gets drowned out by regret, anger, or fear. That’s the inner voice that we are sometimes shamed into not listening to. That voice is not there to punish you, but there to guide you home.
I have worked with people who feel like they do not deserve redemption. I hear things like: “I ruined my chance”, or “People like me don’t change”. But guilt, when faced honestly, is not your enemy. It is in fact a signal that you care. It means there is still a part of you that wants to do better. The danger comes when guilt turns into shame. Guilt says, “I made a mistake” while shame says, “I am the mistake”. Be careful of that difference, as you could find yourself spiralling down that all too familiar rabbit hole, that seems bottomless. Self-forgiveness does not mean forgetting the past. It means acknowledging it, learning from it, and choosing to grow. Repeatedly, if needed.
You do not need to wait until you are released to start living a life of purpose. Purpose is found in the small choices we make every day. For example, being kind when it would be easier to be cold, apologising when we hurt someone, or picking up a book, instead of giving up. Purpose could be mentoring someone younger or more vulnerable than you. It could be learning a new skill, writing letters, taking classes, or simply treating others with dignity. These are the things that strengthen your soul and keep you connected to the person you are becoming. I have worked with people who spent decades behind bars becoming counsellors, writers, fathers, teachers, peacekeepers to others and acting in accordance with their values. Their circumstances did not define them. Their choices did.
There is no expiration date on your humanity. The journey back to yourself will not always be smooth. Some days will feel hopeless. But the fact that you are reading this, that you are willing to reflect, means that something in you is still alive and reaching for more. You do not need to be perfect to begin – none of us are. You just need to be willing.
Start by asking yourself this: What kind of person do I want to become, and what can I do today, if even just one thing, to move closer to that vision?
Write it down and think about it often. Let it shape your steps, day by day. You are not the same person you were yesterday. You are still becoming. And that is one of the most hopeful truths there is.
“The harder the conflict, the greater the triumph”
– George Washington
When the walls close in, both physically and mentally, it is easy to feel like the person you once was has been lost. For many, incarceration becomes not only a punishment but a pause. A disconnection from one’s true self. But you are not gone. You are not broken. You are still in there, waiting to be rediscovered.
As a psychologist who works with many people released from prison, I really value both the process of looking inward and focusing on helping others find their truth. I have sat with many people who feel like they have lost their identity after prison. Some feel crushed by guilt. Others feel numb, hardened, or simply invisible. And some feel they should give in to the opinion of others. But what I have seen repeatedly is that the human spirit is much stronger than it appears. And even behind bars, healing is possible, growth is possible, and transformation is possible.
Who were you before the noise, the chaos, the choices that led you here? Deep down, beneath survival mode and defence mechanisms, there is a core self, a part of you that existed before life got complicated. Maybe you remember being kind, curious, protective, or creative. Maybe you were someone who felt deeply but did not always know how to express it. That version of you may feel distant now, but it is not gone.
One of the most powerful acts of reclaiming yourself is giving yourself permission to remember who you were, and who you wanted to be. Even if the person you were made mistakes, there were also strengths, values, and dreams in you. Those things do not die because of time, trauma, or prison. They just get buried and can be uncovered again.
Ironically, prison may be a place where you can be left alone with your thoughts with minimal distraction. Take time to reflect, not just on your past, but on your potential. Ask yourself:
You do not need to solve everything at once, just start small. Journaling, meditation, or quiet walks can help you reconnect to your inner voice. That’s the one that gets drowned out by regret, anger, or fear. That’s the inner voice that we are sometimes shamed into not listening to. That voice is not there to punish you, but there to guide you home.
I have worked with people who feel like they do not deserve redemption. I hear things like: “I ruined my chance”, or “People like me don’t change”. But guilt, when faced honestly, is not your enemy. It is in fact a signal that you care. It means there is still a part of you that wants to do better. The danger comes when guilt turns into shame. Guilt says, “I made a mistake” while shame says, “I am the mistake”. Be careful of that difference, as you could find yourself spiralling down that all too familiar rabbit hole, that seems bottomless. Self-forgiveness does not mean forgetting the past. It means acknowledging it, learning from it, and choosing to grow. Repeatedly, if needed.
You do not need to wait until you are released to start living a life of purpose. Purpose is found in the small choices we make every day. For example, being kind when it would be easier to be cold, apologising when we hurt someone, or picking up a book, instead of giving up. Purpose could be mentoring someone younger or more vulnerable than you. It could be learning a new skill, writing letters, taking classes, or simply treating others with dignity. These are the things that strengthen your soul and keep you connected to the person you are becoming. I have worked with people who spent decades behind bars becoming counsellors, writers, fathers, teachers, peacekeepers to others and acting in accordance with their values. Their circumstances did not define them. Their choices did.
There is no expiration date on your humanity. The journey back to yourself will not always be smooth. Some days will feel hopeless. But the fact that you are reading this, that you are willing to reflect, means that something in you is still alive and reaching for more. You do not need to be perfect to begin – none of us are. You just need to be willing.
Start by asking yourself this: What kind of person do I want to become, and what can I do today, if even just one thing, to move closer to that vision?
Write it down and think about it often. Let it shape your steps, day by day. You are not the same person you were yesterday. You are still becoming. And that is one of the most hopeful truths there is.
“The harder the conflict, the greater the triumph”
– George Washington
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If I had found freedom in prison, then what was even the point trying to fit in with society?
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At first, it felt like nobody wanted to give me a chance. But, eventually, one employer took a chance on me. That warehouse job may not have looked like much to others, but to me it was everything: it gave me purpose, structure and, most of all, hope.
Prison is endured, not processed. The trauma often goes unrecognised and unacknowledged. Many of us hide the damage, even from ourselves. Without validation, we carry it alone – mistaking struggle for weakness, layering self-blame on top of trauma and finding no clear path to relief.
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